Where Is This Person In Your life?

By Jarlath Uche Opara

Guess, is not new to you? One too often, you have heard it , like an angelus bell. So loud, so shrieking, even in ones deep sleep, it bellows and reverberates, that a friend in need is a friend indeed? How true is it? How relatable is it to you? Have you tried to be such to people? I guess the hardest to be ?

In life, we come across many people in their shapes, sizes,colours and depth.

They may be ones siblings, uncles, Aunties friends, parents etc each of them have some hidden roles to play, which often unfold as events unfold too.

Surprisingly, not all siblings are friends, talk more of being on the level of being indeed. Same is applicable to other friends or relations around one.

The worst thing that can happen to one is to group everyone around one who probably share same blood line, smile and show somewhite teeth, share some glasses of wine etc as friends indeed.

If one does it, heart break isn’t far flung. I have wonderful siblings who are not only wonderful friends but indeed to an amazing depth.

They come through at all times, even at a very slim situation, laying aside their self needs to pull together for collective or each others needs. Though not everyone may have similar experiences with their siblings but I know many do. However, many siblings are yet to achieve this level of friends indeed!

Pulse! Go through your phone contacts, out of the hundreds of names saved, which you exchange pleasantries with, share information, crack jokes, etc can you count ten out of the whole lot who possibly can come through for you in emergencies? Those who possibly can show up and cover your shame?

Those who without counting loses would lay down their convenience to lift you from the valley of hopelessness?

I am not talking about friends at the bar, garden, club houses, friends over frolicking in idle dalliance.

I mean a friend who probably will not play you, evade your calls for some emergency financial help.

No! Not that friend who would take you out on a drinking spree but becomes ”aradatified” when you seek a help to give meaning to your life.

If out of the whole contacts, it becomes difficult to get ten persons who can be that friend Indeed or you being that friend indeed to them, though alive, one maybe far from being human.

Life isn’t all about eating and drinking. It is not about exposure of white set of smiling teeth of a heart that is chared in darkness.

It is not about hanging out and formation of cliques. It is more of impact and lifting in positive directions.

Call nobody friend who isn’t ready to go an extra mile to bear part of your burden. Who would circumvent you for asking for help, who probably wouldn’t show up at anytime when distress call comes. Call them no friend. They are anything but friends, talk more of being an indeed one. In all these, ask yourself am I such a friend to them?

Friendship is deep! Not a walk in the park! Those who understand it, cherish it with all their hearts. Not a space that is meant for everyone and not a name meant for everyone. Who are your friends? Who are your friends indeed? And who are your fairweather friends? Think about it and know peace!!

David and Jonathan! True definition of friends indeed!!

Jarlath Uche Opara Jarlathuche@gmail.com